WHY I DO WHAT I DO

Life has a lot of crazy moments and there are times when we experience a crisis in our families, our relationships, our health or our jobs and money. Also, let’s not forget the times when we have a crisis showing up in seemingly every area. (That is always really fun right? NOT!!)

There are also times when we might not be in the middle of a crisis currently, but there was a crisis in the past that has left us feeling stuck in all of the "nasty" of it, or just having a hard time moving past it in general.

Sometimes it isn't a crisis and instead, is one of those nagging life experiences that is going on at the moment, or has happened in the past, that are just a little more challenging than the norm and continue to receive more of our attention and energy than we would like.

Maybe it is not even us directly.  An event could be happening to one of our friends or family members (human, furry and feathered to name a few) and they need us to be their support person.

Whether it is us directly, or someone we love who is experiencing the crisis, we spend a lot of time and energy trying to get everything back to “normal”. We want to make life seem exactly the same as it was before the crisis happened in the first place.

When it is not a crisis but something that it is nagging us from the past or present, we put a lot of energy into trying to “get over it” so we can move on with our lives.

During and after a crisis we spend a lot of time in survival mode. The realization, that no matter how hard we may try, "life as we knew it" is never going to be the same, may finally sink in.

The result is putting a lot of energy into trying to pick up the pieces and finding ways to make us feel safe again. Therefore, we try to establish the new “normal”.

There may be times when nothing is really wrong but nothing really feels right.

You find yourself just coasting along on autopilot, sometimes mindlessly and sometimes begrudgingly, doing what you think you have to do based on the rules and expectations of everybody else.

Life may even seem like it has lost its meaning entirely. You have become too burnt out, exhausted and drained to reconnect with matters to you. You feel totally disconnected from yourself.

What does it give you?  Freedom to feel your wants and desires.  Reconnection to what makes you happy and how you want to feel.

Why does it matter?  You get drained and exhausted from all of the have to(s), should(s) and the crises of everyday life.   You forget why life is important.  You forget that your wants and desires are important.  You lose connection to yourself.

Why do you care about it? When you are not connected to yourself, you block yourself from receiving and experiencing love, health, money and intimate relationships.

What does it give you? The ability to go with the flow of what is happening in the moment and act accordingly.  It gives you permission to change and be flexible with how you take action.

Why does it matter?  When we keep our identity fixed we limit what we allow ourselves to experience and who we are allowed to be and become.

Why do you care about it?  When you limit yourself in this way you waste all of your energy staying stuck in the past and keeping yourself from being who you are in the moment.  You cannot set healthy boundaries for yourself or act in ways that are supportive to you and allow you to grow.

What does it give you?  Freedom of judgment of criticism.  It allows you to live in the present moment with love and compassion for yourself and others.

Why does it matter? When you are in a state of judgment and criticism you break your own heart.  It drains your energy and stops you from loving and being loved freely. 

Why do you care about it? The more freely you allow yourself to love and be loved you open yourself up to receive more love and abundance in all areas of your life.   The more you receive the more you are able to give and use your energy to feel, be and do what is important to you.

What does it give you?  You gain the understanding that you have and always will do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe.  You understand yourself and why you do what you do.  You learn to appreciate all parts of you, especially the parts of you that you have kept hidden away due to shame, embarrassment and guilt.

Why does it matter?  When you accept that you are perfectly imperfect, that there is nothing about you that needs to be fixed and that there is nothing wrong with you no matter what you are doing and no matter what is happening (in the present, past and future) you experience unconditional love and acceptance for yourself.  This gives you permission to be human and enjoy the experience.

Why do you care about it?  When you are in the space of unconditional love and acceptance you are free to simply “be”.  You are able to create your life with freedom, passion and purpose while living from your heart.

What does it give you? The power of making yourself a priority and putting yourself first.   You become spiritually, emotionally and physically connected to yourself, your feminity and what you need.

Why does it matter?  When you are connected to yourself and what you need, the way you see the world and how important it is that you are in it expands.  You feel a connection to the divine and you feel more inspired, vibrant and alive.

Why do you care about it?  When you feel connected to the divine, inspired, vibrant and alive you are able to live your life purpose of being who you truly are.  You are empowered. From this empowered space you inspire and empower others.